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On Friendship (part 6)

Vulnerability can be scary, but maybe vulnerability can also be freeing. Maybe the tears that we shed for others to hear and see can actually help us heal, help us grow. Maybe the text messages we send asking the silliest questions can help instill trust. Maybe words we try to get out in between sobs can help us actually feel safer. Maybe we need to be vulnerable so we can get a good night's sleep.

Friendships may always be challenging, but they're always worth fighting for. Certain relationships may come to an end, but maybe those can turn into beautiful friendships. Perhaps our circles are very small, and yes, that's okay, but I think we must strive to push ourselves, and each other, toward the scary, even if the outcome doesn't go as we hope.

Ask the silly questions, screenshot the replies if that's what helps you dissolve insecurities one at a time, but keep moving forward, make promises to not push someone away. Always move forward. Claw yourself out of the never ending tears. You can do it. Though your circle may be small, you can trust those in it. To listen. To remind you that they're your friend. To thank you for being their friend. To show up and spend time with you because they want to. To talk to you and be there, even when they don't know what is wrong.

Always remember to reach out. Because you matter. Because you are so loved.

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