The process is important, so why is it that the "failure" of those we help in our jobs, in our lives, is so profound? Why is it that we feel so defeated? It's because we become so invested in the successes, the strengths, the struggles, that they become ours to bare. And I think that's okay, it's helpful, it demands a level of empathy to push us on, to keep us on the journey of helping.
But let's not stay there, let's take in the struggles and the most difficult "failures" so we can examine the beauty of the process. Let's appreciate the lessons learned, the lessons taught, the battles won, the war we still fight. In every battle we fight, win or lose, there is still great value in the process, because if those we fight for, disappoint us or "fail," if we maintain the empathy that is demanded of us, we will undoubtedly recognize that those who "fail" us have even still made tremendous gains. Perhaps then, when they come to us in the future, the battle won't be so bad, the struggle not so hard.
But let's not stay there, let's take in the struggles and the most difficult "failures" so we can examine the beauty of the process. Let's appreciate the lessons learned, the lessons taught, the battles won, the war we still fight. In every battle we fight, win or lose, there is still great value in the process, because if those we fight for, disappoint us or "fail," if we maintain the empathy that is demanded of us, we will undoubtedly recognize that those who "fail" us have even still made tremendous gains. Perhaps then, when they come to us in the future, the battle won't be so bad, the struggle not so hard.
Most of us place more power in the attainment of an external goal, than we do in the beauty of the process we go through to get there.
We focus more on the destination we want to arrive at, rather than the growth that happens along the way.
It is all about the outer world, rather than the inner experience.
We cannot see the precious value and the hidden gems that lay along our journey. We are so hell bent on the destination that we miss them.
We don’t know how to love, appreciate, and revel in the process we are moving through. We just want to get out of the discomfort and onto the good stuff.
We don’t know how to be happy, without what we want. So much of our fulfillment in life is tied up in the attainment of our desires.
And so sometimes what you ‘want’ is delayed so you can learn this precious and divine lesson.
Connie Chapman
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